Tips on dealing with your own burdens

The picture shows a man sitting on the floor. His attitude expresses dejection. Animations pouring out of his head symbolize fears and depression.

We, too, are shocked by what is happening in Ukraine and our sense of security may be faltering.

Being able to do something meaningful and help can also help us to counter the felt helplessness and powerlessness - e.g. by taking in refugees.

At the same time, we feel even closer to the suffering caused by the guests we have taken in. So that we don't overstrain our own strength, it is important that we pay attention to ourselves and our limits.

What can you do if you realize that you are overwhelmed or very stressed?

If you notice that you feel overwhelmed, realize that you cannot undo the suffering of refugees, that you cannot take away their worries and fears.

Nevertheless, with your help you offer security and relief and thus a very important support for those affected.
Recognize that refugees have a difficult road ahead and behind them, but that they have made it this far and have their own resources and experiences to draw on.
If necessary, expand the supportive network with people from your circle of acquaintances who, for example, can go to the authorities with your guests or look after the children during this time in order to take some of the pressure off them.

Mutual consideration

Make sure that there are retreats for you and your guests. Don't take withdrawals or rejection of offers personally. Allow yourself to be distracted by your own activities and relaxation times in which you can switch off and recharge your batteries for your tasks.
Admit openly if descriptions of what you have experienced move you very deeply and you find it difficult to endure it.
Don't overwhelm yourself and your guests with expectations. Despite possible language barriers, you will probably notice that living together is taking place and that some things will gradually fall into place.
You may notice reactions such as restlessness and jumpiness, sleep disorders and emotional numbness, lack of energy, etc. in the refugees that worry you. Such reactions are often side effects of extreme experiences and the associated stress.

Psychosocial-support needs of refugees

If refugees express a need for psychosocial support, you will find offers of help at the German Association of Psychosocial Centres for Refugees and Victims of Torture.

The nationwide working group of psychosocial centers for refugees and victims of torture offers an overview of all centers:

The German Association of Psychosocial Centres for Refugees and Victims of Torture www.baff-zentren.org

Help for helpers

You, too, in your role as a helper for the refugees, may ask for help yourself.

There are a variety of offers, depending on what support you see for yourself:

Telephone counseling

☎ 0800 1110 -111 & -222 or call 116 123

Some psychosocial support structures are still being set up or are organized differently from region to region. However, you can often find existing offers on the website of your local authority or inquire at the local town hall.

Church communities and aid organizations offer as well psychosocial consultation hours or can refer you to local help services.